CASE OF HUSBAND WHO THREW HIS WIFE OUT AFTER AN AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER

 first drafted: Wed 4 May 2016

PENAMPANG.  A young wife from Koidupan told the Native Court here, she discovered her husband was having an affair after reading a message on 15 November last year.

 

The message in her husband’s handphone said, “Morning Love, sorry last nite I naik terus pengsan” (went up then fainted). The reply was, “Bangun My Love”

She sent a reply saying, “Who are you? We are a family with one child”.

She came to know the woman’s full name after finding her name tag, IC, make-up, cloths and eyeglasses in her husband’s car.

 

When asked about the items the husband replied “tiada apa-apa” (nothing to be concerned about).

She informed the court that her husband works at the Boulevard, Kepayan as a maintenance personnel who worked during office hours. However after a month he started having overtime until midnight. Two weeks later only then she saw the message in the iphone5S. She claimed the situation got worse when her husband got angry when asked about the matter, that he threw out her wedding CD,  wedding photographs and personal items and told her to get out of the house as he was fed up.

 

She admitted having minor arguments before but her in-laws never interfered.

 

While at work, a friend called informing that she saw her husband’s car at Taman Kendara. Initially she did not believe but upon using the iphone-finder application the location turn out to be correct.

She said together with her father they went to the Taman and found the car there. She called her husband but his phone was off so she called the other woman who also did not answer. Surprisingly the husband came down and when asked, he answered that even if he explained she would not understand. She retorted “Am I supposed to be your wife?”

 

After a lengthy exchange of words witnessed by her father, her husband said “divorce lah”. She claimed her husband then took off the ring from his fingers and gave to her.

After the incident she went back to live with her parents at Koidupan.

When asked by the court if she made a police report, she said only six months later because initially she wanted to discuss and settle the matter amicably but her husband had blocked her from Whatsapp. He neither called nor asked her to return home. “I also asked my in-laws if he comes home but was informed he only came every now and then”, she said.

 

When asked, she declared to the court her husband was the only person she loved in her life but now she would not return while the case is still heard in court.

After filing the complaint to the native court, my husband sent a message asking me to cancel the case and settle outside but I know he is only trying to protect himself, she added.

She concluded by pleading to the court to deal with her husband in accordance to the Native Laws.

 

In the dock, the husband replied what his wife said were mostly true with some inaccuracies.

He pleaded guilty having an affair but would not reply if he is willing to be punished according to the Native Laws, looking back at his father instead.

His father stood up from the gallery to defend his son but was admonished by the bench saying he is not allowed to speak unless he was filed in as a witness.

 

Since the other woman as second defendant failed to appear, the court then set another date on 17^th May to continue the hearing, informing that another summon will be sent to her. The court presided by District Chief Bryan Matasing and Native Chief Andrew S Lidaun and KK Charles Abel also warned that if she still fail to appear in the next hearing, a warrant of arrest will be issued against her.